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Originally Posted by .HellzPori.  here's a debate for u.
sometimes ... actually most of the time, parents expect their children to be in a certain profession when they grow up. for example: doctor, engineer, architect etc.
so, my question to u all is, do u think it's okay for a parent to do that? or should the children be given the opportunity to choose their own path in life?
p.s. i have an odd feeling that this thread exists already. |
I have the biggest clash with my parents over this. And most probably would for a long, long time. I refused to become a "cliched" professional
Plus due to some twisted events in my life, I fell behind in studies (which am not sorry about because on the brighter side, I learnd so much about life which has helped me devolop a strong inner strength, my character and a better understanding of the world and it's people). So now am not "good enough".
No I do not think there is anything wrong with parents having expectations. I mean as a mother I would have expectations myself but I wouldn't always expect or demand my kids to be what I want them to be. Having gone through what I have gone through, I made a vow to myself. I will bring them up differently. Like I will not become really upset when they voice an opinion and don't follow the path that I have curved for them. I would explain my expectations and I would also be flexible. They will have a choice in most things. It is their life and when they're old and mature enough to develop a sense of right and wrong and an understanding of what is good/right for them, then they can go down the road. Regardless of what I personally want, they're the ones who are gonna live their life, not me. It's their responsibility. And they will face the consequences
