Multiple Relations : An open discussion

[darkcrunk]

Hello everyone ...

Not all of us are devoted to only one boy/girl. Some of has multiple boyfreinds/girlfreinds . Let us discuss the good and bad sides about it and the affect it has in our lives and in our partners.

In the past ages, people had several wives ( some still do have ) and they all lived peacefully. I believe, Old is Gold, and Love is such a beautiful thing, that it should be shared among 4 or 5 partnets. Not all people can love, some can .. and I believe, they should not be selfish, and have multiple relations.

This can be a good thing. .

say .. One guy .. has 3 girlfreinds .. . all know about each other. . all of the girls are very nice and freindly to each other . .

later in life . .they all live together and are married to the one man.. .. each have 1 baby , total 3 babies .. this reduced the load each women has to take. One women can take care of the three babies , while 2 women and 1 man can work n make a lot of cash .. n all of them can fly to places n have nice lil vacations .. wouldnt it be nice ? .. and when the man has to go places .. say . .for job or bizness.. the women wont miss him . .becoz there wud be 3 of them ..and they shud love each other as well . .. to prove that they are not dsicriminating that women can only love men .. .

i guess we should follow these ideas .. our lives wud be much better.. dont u all agree ??

[jhora`pata]

... hmmm ... i think durkcrunk s explaining the good side of keeping several wives at a time... as it s permitted in Islam to hv 4 ...
... i dont know how it s possible fr those wives to hv good relation with each other ...
... and also how a man can love 3 or 4 in the same way ...

[darkcrunk]

No no JP apu !

I didnt mean, the SAME WAY . . Love is such a very rich and deep act. it is full of diversity. . a true and strong lover would find many ways to love ... there u go . . he/she can love 3/4 of his/her gf/bf .. .. it wud be true love, right from the heart . .but it wont be the same... .. love, cannot be measured in any scale ..

and if a man has 4 wives, and if the wives fail be to lovely to each other, it would be a shame.. . they should all learn the act of sharing and be nice,warm and freindly to each other .. otherwise, things wont go good . .. the world wud fall . . . all would fail . . .

i hope my biriyani buddy shiny has some expertise in this field. .

[shiny]

hey man...
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!
i find this thread really funny somhow...

anewayzz... u need 2 do a reality check mann... 1 guy n 3 wives is a loot of work! 1 woman alone is a loot of work if shes demandin enuf.. ... so if u want 3 or 4 women... make da utha 1s a secret... not dat im promotin it anetin... coz 1 woman wuld somhow end up makin ur life hell aneway... so 3 or 4 would mean times 3 or times 4 to dat!

If ane1 wants... they shuld hav a secret family i guess in a remote island or somtin... dat way... not much trouble 2 face... ... not dat im promotin this eitha...

[darkcrunk]

Here we go ! This is an example of a person who cant love :P ..

But Shiny DID give in a noice idea ..which is the one concerning the island part. Some people do have multiple lives like this .. They have diffrent families. . the poor ones .. have diffrent families in diffrent areas of the city..all are secret .. but the good ones, travels very often. .thus comes the need of a family away from family :P .. so he/she gets a family in some other land . .. thats nice. opens up a lot of good opppurtunities .. waddu u all have ta say ?

[Severus]

jodi 4 ta biya legal hote pare then multiple relations should also be allowed

[SenSeTransp()rt]

If a man can have 4 wives, why cannot a woman have 4 husbands?

either the ways, the whole thing is illogical, one can't love multiple at a time. Then "Love" loses its true meaning. Love is something which is intensely happening for only a person, if not it ain't love.

After all being humans, we might fall into multiple relations, but among them "love" can be actually 1 or none.

No offense meant, this was my perspective towards the issue.

[Severus]

i think you have missed a bigger point. In religions, people are asked to get married mainly to make a family and make more little believers. ... for that purpose, love between husband and wife is insignificant.

[alana]

is that??In religions, people are asked to get married mainly to make a family and make more little believers ????
i thought it is because to help some helpless girls..lyk as our Prothet Mudammad(peace be upon him)married 4 girls FOR PURPOSE.nd there is a rule lyk u have to give the same amount of luv time nd everything to all ur wives.that is kind of impossible thing...luv cant be distributed equally nd if ur love is not equal for all u cant distribute all ur belongings at equal amount.
nd In religion 4 marriages are allowed bt no premarriage reletionship so it is absurd to tell that "jodi 4 ta biya legal hote pare then multiple relations should also be allowed "
i think double timeing do only the cheates

[darkcrunk]

Thank you Sense, Severus and Alana for your reviews on this. Hmm.. Alana got the wrong idea. I dont blame her, because the course of this topic was rotated when shiny mentioned the word "Secret" ( secret relations, families, islands ) I originally meant that a person would have 3 or 4 relations. Distribution of love will be equal. Love cannot be shared or divded, true. But you can multiply it ! Tada ! I hope you folks understand this. Say .. You love X. Now, A and B comes in. You DONT have to Divide the love given to X and share it among X, A and B. You can simply try to multiply the amount of love that you have in store and give it away ! And ofcourse, double-timing, one of the most popular term among the clueless teens today, is very awful. My proposition was a relation, in which, all the members of the chain would love each other and know each other.