Career or Family ??

[Rushdan]

yes the credit lies there......making a balance and co ordination between family and career. a lot of problems will araise but witty decisions will wipe them out. so think wise, do wise and finally live wise

[oYn]

If I am committed then family, if not then career.

[.HellzPori.]

ato kichu bujhina.

my future plans:
finish my education, get a job, earn some money and save up. then get married. after that, have another job which would not take away from my family time (i expect my husband to do the same).

when kids will come, i plan to take some years off and devote my life and work to my kids. bring them up successfully. when they would start going to school ... i'll do some sort of a job just because i don't wanna be sitting at home and getting all flubbery (fat).

end of story.*

[HypnotizeD]

to me...my family

[mou-mau]

Career ... duh!!!

Coz the things I wanna achieve and the things that'll make me happy has nothing to do with my own family ... all I want is to make my mom and all the other ppl who love me happy and proud by being good at whatever it is I want to be ... I'm not sharing my future plans with u guyz but the dreams I have can't be true if I suck at my job ... no way ... so my only concern is my studies that’ll lead me towards my dream life.

[abinosshor]

I'll take Career-- no body will love you or support you if you are not successful,if you don't do anything good and yes that applies to your own family. The choice comes when you are successful ,then it's upto you whether you want to support your family or go ahead with your own life.

[rongon]

i guess ,

i can screw my career for my existing family (ancestors & siblings)

&&

i can screw the dream of my "will-be family" (wife & descendants.. jeta ekhono jani na ke hobe) for my career ... ().. coz, without a good career will-be family er modhhe bond will be weaker like pi-bonds


by the way , family bolte kintu conventionally , ancestry bujhay na.. (not quite sure) ..

[Gemini]

Personally, they both go hand in hand. I dont wanna put the pressure of earning money solely on my husband. I just don't think it's fair for one person to earn for the family. Aar just family niye boshe thakleo chole na abar sharakhon career niye boshe thakleo chole na. Tachhara nijer paaye daranor o ekta bepar achhe. It's not about ego though. It's about not asking someone else for your $2.00 latte when you can afford it yourself

[rongon]

[b]ছোটবেলায় একটা application মুখস্থ করতে হয়েছিল -- "full free studentship" .. সেটাতে কিছু কথা ছিল এরকম । +ours is a big family consisting of 8 members. my father is a third class govt. employee and he is the only earning member of our family+ ....... প্রতিটা শব্দ স্মৃতিকোষে এভাবে অখ্যত থাকার কারণটা কি তা জানিনা ।

anywayzz, কট্ট্রর নারীবাদী মানসিকতা থেকে বলছি না । তবু বলছি - Gemini যে ego এর কথা বললে - সেটা নিয়ে একটু বলছি । কোন family এর প্রধান earning member না হলে যদি একজন পুরুষের আতে ঘা লাগে অথবা মহাভারত অশুদ্ধ হয় , একই কারণে একজন নারী যদি এই ব্যাপারটাতে ego তে লাগায় or নিজের কাছে কোন ego conflict or complex এর মুখোমুখি হয়, তাহলে অন্যায় বা অবাক হবার মত কিছু দেখি না আমি ।

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[Bristir Chhonde]

Originally Posted by .HellzPori.

ato kichu bujhina.

my future plans:
finish my education, get a job, earn some money and save up. then get married. after that, have another job which would not take away from my family time (i expect my husband to do the same).

when kids will come, i plan to take some years off and devote my life and work to my kids. bring them up successfully. when they would start going to school ... i'll do some sort of a job just because i don't wanna be sitting at home and getting all flubbery (fat).

end of story.*

I totally totally Agree with Puspita