Career or Family ??

[Gemini]

Ego ta kintu ami shudhu purushder niye boli nai. Kichu mohila achhe jokhon tara chakri kore tokhon dhora ke shora gaayan kore.
I can't stand that as well

[rongon]

হুমম । ঘটনা সত্য । কিন্তু আমাদের patriarchy এরকম কয়টা মেয়েকে ধরাকে সরা জ্ঞান করার সুযোগ দিচ্ছে বল । as a matter of fact , honestly , আশেপাশে মেয়েদের যে অবস্থা দেখি , এরকম supercilious নারী character ও কিছু দরকার আছে আমাদের society তে । হাহাহাআ । তবে egotism জিনিসটাই ফালতু ।

[Gemini]

Asholei faltu but it's one of the most distinct trait of a human. We all have it, more or less. Eriye jawar konoi upaae nai!

[rongon]

হুমম । seven deadly sin এর মধ্যে পড়ে তো বোধহয় । নাকি ? পড়ার তো কথা । কি জানি ।

তবে কখনও কখনও কিন্তু ego ব্যাপারটা সৌন্দয্যের অংশ হয়ে দাঁড়ায় । সৌন্দয্য না বলে ব্যক্তিত্ত বললে বোধহয় appropriate হয় কথাটা ।

(কোনরকম sexism বা feminism এর বৃত্তের বাইরে এসেই বললাম কিন্তু কথাটা)

[Gemini]

Originally Posted by rongon

হুমম । seven deadly sin এর মধ্যে পড়ে তো বোধহয় । নাকি ? পড়ার তো কথা । কি জানি ।

তবে কখনও কখনও কিন্তু ego ব্যাপারটা সৌন্দয্যের অংশ হয়ে দাঁড়ায় । সৌন্দয্য না বলে ব্যক্তিত্ত বললে বোধহয় appropriate হয় কথাটা ।

(কোনরকম sexism বা feminism এর বৃত্তের বাইরে এসেই বললাম কিন্তু কথাটা)

I totally understand what you mean. Shobar majhei kichuta ego thakaro dorkar achhe.
Sheta tokhon ekta manusher bektittor ekta important ongsho hoye daray The trick is not to let it cross the line which unfortunately many fail to do.

[dark_saint]

Depends on Situation .........depends on time ................both ! .........giving priority is da damn thing .... .........

[Nuha]

Originally Posted by habijabi

gotta have some balance between the two man ! u should not choose one outta above . there are many who maintain both . female der kothai bollam. gotta make some sacrifice but you can still maintain both. you may not be able to devote 100% but 70/80% aint that bad

i agree with habijabi

[bengaltiger]

i guess we cannot generalize these things.....for some ppl career comes first...n for some family...nd both sides have their reasons.....but we cant say career should GENERALLY come first or family shud GENERALLY come first....jaar jaar obhiruchi

[Arrogant-Brit]

I agree with most of the comments here.. family comes first no matter what and if you do sacrifice your life for your family may Allah reward you for that today or tomorrow!

[Gemini]

Well I juggle family, full-time studies AND part-time work. If my husband starts school soon he'll be juggling his work as well, so imagine that! As much as it's pretty stressful, they're all very equally important to both of us. You can't really leave one or the other out. Studies, family, career...they're all part of life. It's not easy but you just gotta balance and help each other out with understanding and patience!