Cutting / Bruising / Hurting yourself when Depressed

[Enigma]

i don't think i was ever a wannabe by the way. wannabe = to try nd be somebody else. but ami to onno karor moto hoite chy nai. i was still me.
i totally disagree with ur point of view. i never hurt myself for people to see it. ami amar body er amon parts o hurt korsi that people can't see. i hid this for a long period of time. but then i came out more in the open. one time i tried cutting my vein but i kept thinking ... katle amar life end hoye jabe. then i would never get what i have again. i would never be able to change the wrong things again. only that one little hope in my heart stopped me from giving up my life. it was the fear of me not being able to get it all back again. if my life ended, then that was IT. no more ... so, yes, i disagree with u entirely. sorry.

So is this means you'd cut ur veins and drink true poison to prove you're not a wannabe? Because how would we know that you're not?

And yo..take your ignorance somewhere else. A person don't really know all the facts about someone/something unless they themselves have been through it. So think twice about judging someone and the situations they have been in. People who are constantly jumping into all sorts of conclusions about things without knowing are the ones with true mental disorders.

ppl just need some true listeners around. moreover gud friends
tailey shob thik hoye jai
i always say... dunt be nosy, but if u feel sumthing is not right it is ure responsibility to find out wat happened and help them get thru it.
rejecting, ignoring, or despising ppl is the worst thing u can do.
apni janen nah, apner kun kothai, kokhon, kakey aggath dibbey.

depressed ppl can do anything... cuz they have no hopes, no will to live.
ey feeling ta k positive kemney banai tey hoy akhono manush shikkhey nai.
result: getting high, creating physical pain to forget mental stress
but little do they kno that ey shob aru worse korey.
they dunt help... they dunt make sense either

i feel manush eyta dekhey dekhey shiksey. kew kew asey khamakha korey, kew kew cuz psychologically chinta korey it helps, kew kew cuz aito raag koi dhalbey? nijer upor dhalley. kew kew korey just to see how it feels

weird way to cope if u ask me.
raag uthley dor diye ashben... matha out hoyley gaan shunben...kichu akhben, likhben... kadben if u need to. gotta let it out. has to go somewhere but not like this.
ey energy manush jodi convert korey thanda jidh ey dey. onek kaj hoyto... onek unnoti hoyto.

u dunt like sumthing? move on... u feel upset? keep ureself busy
dunt wanna see anymore bad stuff happening? go help others.

i understand its hard... i lost my head for a year. karo shatey kotha boltam nah
kichu share kortam nah... just eka thaktey pochondo kortam. one day i had enough. i said to myself... joto frustration asey ami ono jagai use korbo.
relationship borbad korey ki labh
family friends der worry korey ki labh?

we r born alone... die alone.. ey shob kotha ami r mani nah.
yes its true onek jinish eka kortey hoy but there is always sumone who cares. oder jono, oder khushir jonno onek kichu kortey hoy.
being positive is one of the duties of being a gud human being.

shobai jodi nijerey kattey, bah suicide korey each time a prob arises, we wud all die! dunt u agree? lolzzzzzzzz

prob er r shesh nai pitla ghugues.
doesnt mean u will punish urself!

oi frustration control korey ono jagai kajey lagaitey hobey. dorod chara aito brilliant kobita r gaan shrishti hoyto nah. manush k inspire o korto nah to be ambitious and focused abt life.

so try not to be hasty. think it thru, and overcalm it. .

tc

( i am shocked i read this HUGE para!!!)


PPl hurt themselves when they are angry or frustrated and there is no way they can get rid out of it! When i am depressed or sad, i eat. When i am angry at strangers for saying stupid things or doing things which i hate, i hit them on the punch and cool my anger. But when i am angry at my loved ones, i cann't just punch him or her!! in this cases, i used to punch walls and there had been times when I kept on punching the wall even though my knuckle was badly bruised and was bleeding!!

an advice to ppl who likes punching walls when angry: Buy a sandbag!!! I did and it helps lol

[Gemini]

Please amar kotha onno bhabe niyo na...but you need anger management.

[Enigma]

Originally Posted by Gemini

Please amar kotha onno bhabe niyo na...but you need anger management.

u got me wrong Gemini though it snot your fault..my post reflected a wrong impression..i am a cool headed person..I RARELY get angry and pick up a fight..the truth is..There had been only FEW fights i encountered till now....

prblem is..ppl like me who doesn't get angry tht easily, gets REALLy aggresive( not tht they get physcially violent) when gets angry! I dnt knw how to explain this..its just how it is ..i hope u understood wht i mean

[Force_Recon]

there should be some sorta legal help or rehabilitation centres for such people.
wannabe is not the word,attention seeking should be a more appropriate word for what you were trying to mean.

[Gemini]

I do understand you Enigma. The thing is..it's not about how often one gets angry.
It's about how one deals with their anger when they DO get angry

Force Recon, wow there is a huge difference between calling them "wannabes" and "attention seekers".



Just in case anyone missed it, the previous comment was a sarcasm.

[.HellzPori.]

LOOOL. Gemini .. u ROCK babe!!!!!! ummmmahhh!!!

Force_Recon -- that was just a wrong thing to say. ur offending people ... in this case u offended me cuz i "was" from that bunch nd i do not agree with u. u should be broadminded enough to gulp everything in ... nd if u can't, just keep the comment to urself nd don't make another person feel bad. as Gemini said, unless nd until u go through a trauma like that, u will never know what it feels like for that person.
nd for ur kind info, there r rehab centers that help people cope up with this kinda problem. i don't know about Dhaka, but yea, in Canada there r places to seek help.

[Force_Recon]

no seriously Pori I myself went through depression,great periods of depression ,lots of family problems ,yet the thought of cutting the wrists never came to my head.Like I said,marriage-related/family-related probs thakle bujha jai kintu oneke ase bf/gf-er shathe break-up er por kore. some people needs to get an understanding of non-marital relationships.
I guess my perceptions are based on how I was brought up.I am sure I am different from such people.hence it will take one hell of an experience and a long time for to understand.

[Gemini]

Well am sure Hellzpori and I haven't been brought up as if cutting ourselves is a very appropriate thing. I was in that situation myself that's why I have the nerve to say judging someone without being in their shoes is JUST PLAIN WRONG and people who constantly do that should seek mental help for themselves
And I'd even bet you Force Recon this is something no one talks about, let alone bring it up with their children, especially in a culture like ours. We are so damn black and white when it comes to seeing the world and its issues...as if admitting or talking about having any kinda problem is a matter of shame and public disgrace. God it drives me insane!!!

[Enigma]

I do understand you Enigma. The thing is..it's not about how often one gets angry.
It's about how one deals with their anger when they DO get angry

true...everyone has their own ways to control it..like for Numby, she listens to music..I puch my sandbag...Pori chipai giye kanna kati kore and chokh tomator moto boro kore fele! anger management is for those who are short tempered and looks at the world through hatred and a grudge against every little thing!

I wudn't say ppl who wanna cut their veins are "wanna bees" or "attention seekers"...to me they are ppl who has been misleaded towards a wrong path by their heart..coz when ppl are depressed, they tend to think with their heart, not brain and heart is fudging emotional!

Force-rekon, its not how u were brought up..it may be situations u went through which made u less sensitive to emotional matters....No one teaches their children to cut their vein when depressed...when ppl get lot of love, its very obvious that they get a lil sensitive to emotional matters!

But still, ppl should try to be mentally more stronger coz cutting vein is not a "senseab;e" thing to do and atleast not expected from matured ppl...Pori and Gemini, life is too important to hurt so when depressed, eat ice cream lol...it does work! and Pori u said a great thing in one of your previouss posts...if u die, whow will u get things u can get and how will u see the world which has so many things to offer to u...

Luba..by any chance, am i tht frnd of yours who said tht???

[.HellzPori.]

Force_Recon -- i don't think my parents told me to cut my wrist when i was depressed nd Enigma nd Gemini said the same thing. different people have different ways of dealing with problems nd at that time, this was the way that i saw as "right". ami onek pore realize korsi that it wasn't. it doesn't mean that i'm mentally sick or something ... it's just another method ... (a rather extreme method to be exact) to cope with problems.