parents and education

[.HellzPori.]

Originally Posted by morphinemind

kin2 parents ra motamoti akta way show kore deyar khomota rakhe i blv............

jemon amr parents amake tk poisha die bhalo koythao BBA poranor por jodi ami boli j na ive decided to be a bartndr ba eijatio kisu......den its not gud......

we shud also think j amader parents ki chay!!!

well, of course. parents lay out certain expectations for us. i mean, it would hurt for me to say to my parents that "oh! now that u've paid for it, i'm really sorry. i don't wanna do it anymore." i think that u should decide for sure what u want to do nd lay out ur plans to ur parents. u can have a BBA degree but if after that if u wanna go ahead do something else, then i don't think parents should even be pulled in this matter. u should pay for it urself. cuz parents der ja kora dorkar chilo, they already it. u have the knowledge to be a businessman but i don't see the harm in opening more doors.

[aurora]

my dad always said i should be whatever i wanna be,and..my mom gave a strange advice..that whatever else i became,i shouldnt think of going into the medical profession..!although i wanted to be a doctor when i was a kid[who doesnt think that?]that obsession faded.
and then i fell in love with the buet campus,my parents were happy with what i chose...and now,im tired of all the pressure this institution is putting me through,the never ending saga of 'bash'..
i blame myself!!
and my parents say...u made ur choice,now work hard!!
i wish my parents had forced me into something..then i could atleast make that my escapegoat!

[Force_Recon]

jemon amr parents amake tk poisha die bhalo koythao BBA poranor por jodi ami boli j na ive decided to be a bartndr ba eijatio kisu......den its not gud......

that is kind of a different situation.when you go to University or the tertiary education sector you already have to have chosen your career.I was talking about the time before you go that far.
you have mentioned an important point ,the financing of education .Parents should be there to make sure that you achieve success in whatever career you have chosen.

[.HellzPori.]

Originally Posted by Force_Recon

that is kind of a different situation.when you go to University or the tertiary education sector you already have to have chosen your career.I was talking about the time before you go that far.
you have mentioned an important point ,the financing of education .Parents should be there to make sure that you achieve success in whatever career you have chosen.

actually u know, i've seen many parents who don't financially support their kids to study in university. they expect je the kids would pay for their own education. well, i'm not exactly sure what my take is on that. ... is it right?

[Force_Recon]

hard to tell.Not everyone's financially well off.they do though.

jemon amr parents amake tk poisha die bhalo koythao BBA poranor por jodi ami boli j na ive decided to be a bartndr ba eijatio kisu......den its not gud......

your post has again set me off to thinking.My relatives always tell that if I go abroad to study I may have to clean dishes to pay for my expenses....isn't that too disrespectful also?
or do you mean a guy from a well off family becoming a bartender?well that's something though definitely.

[Gemini]

Originally Posted by .HellzPori.

here's a debate for u.
sometimes ... actually most of the time, parents expect their children to be in a certain profession when they grow up. for example: doctor, engineer, architect etc.
so, my question to u all is, do u think it's okay for a parent to do that? or should the children be given the opportunity to choose their own path in life?

p.s. i have an odd feeling that this thread exists already.

I have the biggest clash with my parents over this. And most probably would for a long, long time. I refused to become a "cliched" professional Plus due to some twisted events in my life, I fell behind in studies (which am not sorry about because on the brighter side, I learnd so much about life which has helped me devolop a strong inner strength, my character and a better understanding of the world and it's people). So now am not "good enough".

No I do not think there is anything wrong with parents having expectations. I mean as a mother I would have expectations myself but I wouldn't always expect or demand my kids to be what I want them to be. Having gone through what I have gone through, I made a vow to myself. I will bring them up differently. Like I will not become really upset when they voice an opinion and don't follow the path that I have curved for them. I would explain my expectations and I would also be flexible. They will have a choice in most things. It is their life and when they're old and mature enough to develop a sense of right and wrong and an understanding of what is good/right for them, then they can go down the road. Regardless of what I personally want, they're the ones who are gonna live their life, not me. It's their responsibility. And they will face the consequences

[Gemini]

Originally Posted by Force_Recon

hard to tell.Not everyone's financially well off.they do though.

your post has again set me off to thinking.My relatives always tell that if I go abroad to study I may have to clean dishes to pay for my expenses....isn't that too disrespectful also?
or do you mean a guy from a well off family becoming a bartender?well that's something though definitely.

the problem with us is, amra certain kichu profession chhara shob kichu ke "disrespectful" hishabe dekhi. Just like many of you, I come from a decent background. My parents never had to work at a fastfood restaurant to pay for their bus tickets for their lunch and usual expenses like shopping and even studies although there is help available for that okay? They had their parents to provide EVERYTHING. The only time they had to work is after finishing univ or as for my mom, after moving to some other country. That's how it is in Bangladesh and eventhough it's good that things are provided for you, it doesn't allow people to stand on their own two feet and a get a grip on the "real" reality of life. It doesn't teach you a part of life that exist.

But growing up in Canada, I have to work and so does other people of my age, younger (some of my co-workers are 15/16 yrs old who are also juggling studies) and older. There is nothing disrespectful about it. Sitting on your ass (after a certain age) and being totally dependent on your parents for all of YOUR personal expenses, however is

[aurora]

whats disrespectfull about cleaning dishes or washing cars?infact i wish we had opportunities here for part time jobs.i feel embarrassed to ask for money from my parents.
if u go abroad to follow your dreams,why wont u be prepared to work for it?
thing is..i have seen many people here,who pressurize their parents to admit them in private universities,not considering the economic status of the family.now.if after graduating,one of them decides to sway from their planned career path,becomes a bartender or bohemian or whatever,that is completely wrong.one should have respect for all that our parents do for us.

[SolaRmaN]

same here!!!

Originally Posted by Force_Recon

obviously.Parents shouldn't decide what's good for us especially in these times.