Sex Before Marriage

[Gemini]

Oneke socially "accepted" howar jonno eshob kore..which in my opinion is very very pathetic Sometimes they do it to keep a partner from leaving them...which is also pathetic. Why would one has to do something like that to keep someone?! Ajob. Not just girls though, guys regret doing it as well eventhough they often don't talk about it.

Umm...tok jhal mishti about the love thingy - love and sex are virtually two different thing and if a couple's love is pure in that sense of the word, then sex shouldn't matter, should it? To love someone or to be in a totally loving relationship amar mone hoy na one has to have sex with the partner. Eta keno haram, er pichone deep jukti achhe. Personally I think it's haram because a lot of people end up regretting it And once you lose a thing like that, you can never have it back. Especially if you were with the wrong person at the wrong time.

Proper timing er dorkar nai? How bout this? Someone has sex without being prepared and they get into trouble. Then what? These things happen and it happens because people aren't mature enough to plan for things like these and aren't mature enough to handle the situation. If someone's gonna have sex, here's the thing: go ahead and do it but for your damn sake, be mature and sensible about it! Forget about religion for a second but think about other things.

I personally know a couple who ended up breaking up because they were stupid enough to think that since they're getting married anyways they don't need to put too much thought into it. Guess what happened after that? When they were in trouble, the guy ran like hell, as fast as he could from her. In a matter of a day he forgot about her existence. Had they, specially the girl put some thought into it before doing anything, she would have been saved from a lot of psychological pain. Ami just Bangali manushder kotha bolchi nah. Everyone regrets a wrong decision and everyone has to pay one way or the other for their deeds.

[tok_jhal_mishti]

Sorry dear Gemini

But i didnt meant anything to be in rock n roll with sex.
Read the thread title "Sex before marriage". I guess it ment physical relations before getting married to person u love.

I know the difference betn love and sex. Im not encouraging to be in this sort of relationship. What I meant is when u meant the word sex it means very professional. Actually i think when u used the word marriage then it has to be in love. I respected the love thing by sayin "making love" not sex. If before marriage ur makin love than thats got to be accepted. Im not telling this to some person as u said in ur example runnin out of problem from love. He has to be som sort of jurke of doin somthin like that. And the girl with him was wrong to pick som sort of partner like that. A partner who runs away in problem from his love on that scenario i guess u know how to mesure him.

And yes dear im sayin that as we r used to its better that we go for it after marriage. But dont forget the imotional part. There are some instances in our life that u can never forget. I don think ppl wanna loose such a moment. And yes do think ppl got know who they r going out with.

And i think yes ur friend is in shock after what happande to her. But i shud say she is lucky that she was never married to that .... boy. Its better that his real face came out b4 the perfect relation make up. Look we have a soul and if its clear then we'r pure. And ya if ur sayin that the girl had such relation with a man now how she is gonna go for any other relation who is gonna accept her!!...then dear i think kich those .... asses who looks for just a brand new somthing from a girl. I think that person shud move on thinkin of she is lucky not be with som one like that. I know its not easy but it has to be done...

And yes we meet so many ppl in life .... som touches our heart .... that we never get to forget .... but we move on

If u say im sayin somthin fullishly romantic than i shud say if there wud have no romance sort of emotional thing the world wud have been at the end by now. Its how our life goes on.

And yes i respect marriage very much. thats why i think a person whom ur gonna get married will know everythin about u and he shud care u not ur past...

Please think about what i meant..........................

If u still think im wrong pls blame me ill ans again in my convenient time.....

[beshi_jose]

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[Rushdan]

onek e onek kisui bolsen.......
my comment in precise:

sex before marriage khokhonoi accept korte pari na. if you consider religion, it is strongly prohibited in all religions and the punishment will be severe enough. if you consider social values of bangladesh its not possible here also (though there are exceptions). finally if you consider ones morality and purity........shorirer pobitrota nosto hole ta r ferot pawa jai na.......that creats a lot of impact on mind.......as a result mind become spoiled too.

love results in sex, true......but there is a legal way (marriage) to convert ones love into sex.

[Asif Mahbub]

sex before marriage is haram. so ami kokhono e er pokhe na....i hate it.

[Ria]

sex before marriage.......dont support it...

[UnD!$PuTeD]

y u guys talkin bout dis crap ere...jus cuz u'r bored... wel deres so many otha nyc fings 2 do n talk bout... ... geez...

[Zabir]

just saying no.. i dont have to defend something i believe..

[disher]

sex b4 or after , yes please lols, its hard to lie this days hahahaha

[Rushdan]

Originally Posted by shoma_79

well i know in islam it's forbidden....... but do u really think that all the muslim ppls in our country r following islam??

well i'd worked in a ngo hospital for one year. n u guys won't believe how many unmarried gals came for abortion there??

isn't it weird?? n the most amazing thing was most of the gals of them wears hizab. i think u already heard those words "ghomtar niche khemta nache"??

well what would u say after these??

yes apu your are right 100%......we now a days have become so called muslims.
thats why its our fault. regarding those girls i would say that they might have been missused or abused by some way by their counterpartners.
hizab......thats for only to hide oneself from society.....for nothing else !