Sex Before Marriage

[Gemini]

Thats just stupid to say it's up to only ONE person to make sure nothing goes wrong. Yo, you're in this together..so it's BOTH people's responsibility. If ya can't handle it, don't do it. Simpe as that.

[Enigma]

Originally Posted by Gemini

Thats just stupid to say it's up to only ONE person to make sure nothing goes wrong. Yo, you're in this together..so it's BOTH people's responsibility. If ya can't handle it, don't do it. Simpe as that.

Gemini, lets get realistic( dnt take it personally. Golpo memebrs has a tendancy to take everything personally!) Wht u said is right, U r having sex so both shud have the responsibility, but it doesn't work tht way. Lets talk abt our country, BD. Here, if a gal has sex bf marriage, the society is gonna blame the gal, not the boy!(i knw society rules sumtimes sux). IF a boy does sumthing, no one says anything but if a gal does sumthing, rumours easily spread abt her and turns a small matter into a huge issue!! I am not saying this things are right. I myself hate and is against all this. Its easy to say that BOTH has the responsibility, but in reality, if a the boy denies to take the responsibilty, the gal's life is ruined( there are few cases where the guy is punished, but its rare)

As gals go through more prblems then guys, gals shud therefore be more careful than boys! and i think u r getting it all wrong. PPl have sex b4 marriage without any intension of having kids, hence there is no responsibilty!(if this is wht u meant by responsibilty). Only those who are stupid enough not to take safety precaution b4 having sex makes a mistake( which happens most of the time)& end up being in a mess which doesn't clean up tht easily and at the end, the gal is the victim!

Whts your opinion now?

[.HellzPori.]

yea, i think i agree with u, Rahul.
ur right. in most cases, girls have to suffer cuz the boys don't usually take the responsibility which sucks.
i think the girl has nd should have the final say of going to bed with the guy since her life is going to be affected the most if she gets pregnant. i mean, if the guy is respectful enough of the girl, then he should take her words into account nd also, think of the future consequences.
my boyfriend nd i have this discussion sometimes, nd he has given me the privilege to make the final decision cuz he does not want to jeopardize my life nd honour.
remember, girls carry the honour of the household ... much more than boys do. at least, that's what the old folks say.

[xtrmspd]

well i dont belive in sex b4 marriage..
but its prevalence is increasing at an alarming rate..
ppl in europe an america.. lose virginity as early as 14 [definitely by 18]

its pretty common there

but even in bd... u c ppl making out all the time too..

[Xeroderma]

Here is something I want to debate with u guys. It’s indeed a very wonderful topic to discuss about and thanks author to give us scope to talk about it.

For Past 10 mins I have reviewed almost all Ur sayings and here is my view about this topic. I believe “Sex before marriage a must”. I know hearing this u guys instantly having a very negative and forceful idea about me and my personal life, but guys, remember it’s only a thread and one’s view of society.

If a couple think about a marriage they not only think about their relation , activities and family - they also think about a very big issue called “spending life together”. It’s a very big step in life and young couple just take the step without even second thought. Talking about sex – it’s a biological need of a human body. It’s a same thing like eating food, going to rest room and drinking water. You can not ignore the fact that if u r hungry and the food is crap you aren’t satisfied. If you guys don’t know how Ur partner boy/girl going to meet your biological need after marriage, how u going to make sure that it’s a happy life for u? And that is the reason why a marriage ends up with controversial topic called “can’t satisfy me”. Not 1, not 2, not 3 I have heard this more than ten of times from married couples. My question was to them “dint u know that before u get married?” their reply was pretty much same for all. “ Hay Allah , ey chele bole ki ? biyer agey….. wastak ferullah” – well here u go , why complaining now then ?

Two of my spoil brat friends are having affairs ( POROKIA) with 2 happily married women. Guess what, one of them was an arrange marriage and other one went out for 3 years before they get married.

Guys admit the fact – it’s a love , affection and care u show your partner. It’s the most valuable gift u can give to your love. Moreover it’s a another way of saying to your beloved one “I trust you , and I know you are not going to hurt me”

[Severus]

Xeroderma : but i dont understand why would married couples come n tell ur abt their satisfaction level ?

[DarKsaInt]

Movie from Darling

[PraNTiK]

IS it Obvious that we have to have SEX before marriage???

is this SATISFACTION is all about???

I DONT BELIEVE this

[Force_Recon]

Two of my spoil brat friends are having affairs ( POROKIA) with 2 happily married women. Guess what, one of them was an arrange marriage and other one went out for 3 years before they get married.

Xeroderma : but i dont understand why would married couples come n tell ur abt their satisfaction level ?

and they say our society is not opening up?

Movie from Darling

yeah true and worse than that in reality.
Xeroderma what's your point?Life is all about good sex?nothing else but sex?

off-topic:about those happily married women having porokiyo affairs with your pals(DEAR GODDD!) what kind of background are they from?religious,liberal ,middle-class or 'high-class'?I fail to understand how someone can have an affair with married and older women.

[Xeroderma]

Originally Posted by Severus

Xeroderma : but i dont understand why would married couples come n tell ur abt their satisfaction level ?

I work for national health service(NHS) In UK . before i get here i used to work with a marriage councilor in a mental health department where many people comes to sick advice about marriage break down or problems.