Sexual Harassment & Abuse - how to prevent ?

[Force_Recon]

for boys it's more of bullying but yes some sort of harassment does happen.

[friend_]

Proper sex education could be a gr8 solution but in bangladesh do we hv anything like tht ?

[Addabaj]

Originally Posted by dark_saint

hmm.....aita prevent kora jabe na ............manushikota i ami main dhorchi eikhan e ........

Aie ta tumi ki bolla? Keno prevent kora jabe na? Ami nije amar soob choto vaai boon ke jinish ta bujhaichi and as Severus mentioned, they all knows where to kick while they will be in danger. But this is not the only thing to do. There are some other things to do after that we could prevent it. Its always better to avoid the possibilities of sexual harassment or abuse. Not only the children, we have to make aware all the people related with us. It includes everyone of the family, and when you will try to explain this matter, may be someone would not try to listen, or avoid it, please try to make them understand about the necessity of this knowledge. Thus it can be prevented. There are 650+ active members in Golpo.net. If we can make only 5 people around us to understand this matter, so what would be the total number of people will get award? And if one do that, s/he will create a chain of this awareness. So it is not impossible at all.

Now, what to do to prevent sexual abasement?

01. Speak up: Don't let the matter stay in dark. Yes, I know it will not good for the abused girls future, but it can be discussed among the family and the criminal can be punished. Otherwise, go straight to Police.

02. Aware children: Make the children aware of it. Let them know that some people could cross the limit of adore, and thats not good. So be careful about this type of situation.

03. Teach possible fightback: There are a number of ways that can be applied.

There are some more things can be done. Lets the discussion continue ....

[dark_saint]

^^^^^^Thtz great ........i wish it will helpful to children.......severus thik i bolce ....but ekta bachaa r shokhti kototuku if they r attacked

[gonder]

shoot them out in firing squad line

[Addabaj]

Originally Posted by dark_saint

^^^^^^Thtz great ........i wish it will helpful to children.......severus thik i bolce ....but ekta bachaa r shokhti kototuku if they r attacked

Ask a 8/9 yrs old to do that with you someday, and after that post your experience

But prevention is much better. Amra jodi sobai sotorko thaki je amader vaai boon er sathe amon hote pare, and speakup about it in our family, then sexual abuse er change kome jabe onek khani. Karon jara amon kore tara asholeo veetu, tara jane je tara akta moshto boro onnay korteche.

And about the mentality, yeh, seita change korte to somoy lagbei, karo moner moddhe soytan thakle se ta sohoje dur hobe na, but lets not give them a chance. Ami jodi amar family'r moddhe awareness toiri korte pari, tahole tomrao parba. Sobai parbe.

Lets not happen it in your family.

[dark_saint]

hmm........u r ri8 boss ............prevention & mentally both of them will hv to be secured and changed sequencely

[aurora]

amader ekhane ei bepar gula ekhono ekta taboo...parents ra j keno bujhena chotobela thekei baccha der bujhanor beparta...i dont understand.
how can a child be on his or her guard,if they dont know what they might be facing?
and the worst part is,as most of these abuse incidents happen within the familiar circle,a child always fears that they will not be believed by the elders..and more often than not,that is what happens.i dont know what is worse.being molested,or being told by your parents to ignore it all.

[.HellzPori.]

Originally Posted by aurora

amader ekhane ei bepar gula ekhono ekta taboo...parents ra j keno bujhena chotobela thekei baccha der bujhanor beparta...i dont understand.
how can a child be on his or her guard,if they dont know what they might be facing?
and the worst part is,as most of these abuse incidents happen within the familiar circle,a child always fears that they will not be believed by the elders..and more often than not,that is what happens.i dont know what is worse.being molested,or being told by your parents to ignore it all.

i totally agree with u babe.
amader parents onek beshi conservative ESPECIALLY about this sex matter. tara emni normal discussion o kore na sex niye. i remember the first time i discovered it, was with my friends nd not my mom. akhono movie tey kono jodi scene ashe or say, there is a movie about this girl getting raped nd her fighting back for justice, my mom would say to me, "jao tomar dekha lagbe na. boro der movie."
see, i think ei type er mentality joto din thakbe, totodin it would be merely impossible for people in Bangladesh to avoid this problem. even though Bangladesh is a Muslim country, i feel that sex education is necessary cuz it is an unavoidable part of our lives. even though amader children ra jodi abused hoy, ora giye kake bolbe? bolar to manush lagbe right? prothom thekei amader mathay eita dhukano hoi je sex is a bad thing. so obviously, no child would have the courage to speak up .
ei problem er shesh hoite aro onekkkkkk bochor lagbe cuz manush ato joldi mentality change korbe na. IMPOSSIBLE.

[Gemini]

Sadly there is no prevention. This is something that will happen. This, for the largest part depends
on the hasser...not the harassed

We can only take a bit of precaution but is there 100% prevention? I doubt it. Kono purush jodi kono mohila ke harass korte chae, shey korbei ebong at least try korbe even if it means the woman is wearing a borkha. Ar jodi kono purush kono mohila ke harass korte na chae, then whatever she is wearing, however she is walking around will be no issue to him