Sexual Harassment & Abuse - how to prevent ?

[angelmorn]

well everyone here seems to be talking about making the parents to be more responsible and make them let their children be aware of sex and etc, but what would you say for those parents who themselves abuse their own children both sexually and in other ways ? Before pointing our fingers to the parents we ourselves have to educate ourselves first and foremost ! As for people not talking about it in public or anything - well its not really a conversation starter is it ? Thats where the problem is - We'll talk about HIV or AIDS and how it is spread and why Abuse is such a hideous crime and all but we shall never EVER talk about SEX - its pros and cons.
All we learn about sex is from school textbooks but those are just the basics - for most people thats just it - but we most of us don't know what the religious barriers are on this issue because nobody ever tells us. What we need to prevent Sexual Harassment and Abuse is Social Awareness - starting with oneself at the beginning is important. Not only awareness we need proper laws and people with sane mentality who are ready to speak out and who can ensure us with the information that Justice will be served if we want it !

[.HellzPori.]

angelmorn -- agreeeeed!

[needs_fire]

look at the case of the 19 yr old gang-rape victim in saudi arabia where she was ordered to undergo 200 lashes,(becoz she was raped!).so, i believe it is not the case of religion as much as how it is interpreted by ppl who has the luxury to do so.Moreover, many of the cases of child sexual abuse goes unreported in bangladesh.the best way to over come this,is through better public education and creating awareness.it is time, that the government should liberalise the national education system, rather face the option of more madrassas interpreting islam in their own ways and brainwashing the young population.

[abinosshor]

Originally Posted by angelmorn

well everyone here seems to be talking about making the parents to be more responsible and make them let their children be aware of sex and etc, but what would you say for those parents who themselves abuse their own children both sexually and in other ways ? Before pointing our fingers to the parents we ourselves have to educate ourselves first and foremost ! !

Suppose a child is 8 or 10 years old.What mental awareness or ability he would achieve on his own in this age??Will he understand the concept of perversion or abuse from some books which he can't even read correctly at that time? Or he would gather this knowledge through other means which as well as can misguide him!!!The sense that he needs to educate himself about abuse and other things isn't likely to grow at that time.Obviously he needs a mentor and i don't see a better one other than his parents in most of the cases.

Some perverts abuse their own children, it is becoming more common day by day.I don't see a possible way to identify them before they abuse their children.

[delilah]

nice topic ...well sex should not be a taboo anymore anywhere...people should have chances to talk about sex and not to think that its something that you can brag about....

[chokher-polok]

Im so disgusted by this child sexual abuse issue, and even more disgusted at the fact that it exists among every society. Religious LEADERS guilty themselves too, heard so much stuff about them.
I personally had the talk with my sister and cousins on, appropriate touching, defences, awareness and guarding and most importantly I gave them assurance that if anything happened they could come tell me and we'd work through it together.
All this isnt enough though people that do this dirty deed should be shot in the groin.
Can I get a Amen pls ?

[Nneel]

nice thread...

Onekei ja bollo - asolei eita Prevent kora allmost impossible--kintu kisu shochetonota barano gele/ child education - r maddodme kisu ta improve kora jabe...

[Severus]

since murder had not been prevented anyways , how can be sexual abuse

[junkviper]

Sexual abuse is a very common issue in each and every country which counts a good share of the total crime. To deal with it is not so simple; due to its various nature. Its true that in our country not much sexual education is provided. But it doesnt mean that a child will be taught everything about sex. That doesnt make any sense to me. Look at the advanced countries, almost all the children knows about sex in an early stage. What is their condition? Horrible. believe me its simply horrible. We are in a better condition compared to those so called advanced countries. Problem is that we r so conservative that we just blame the girls.

To prevent it to occur frequently our parents should do teach us about the privacy of body parts. they should be able to differentiate among good touches and bad touches. It starts with simple touches.. n finally the consequence is horrifying.. for the child.

I dont tell the parents to be religious ...but at least they should try to create some values in the mind of their children.

Parents should (especially mother) listen to the child (esp girl) properly rather ignoring... it may happen that they will not be willin to speak much about any bitter experience... but as immatured they will utter some words related to that. Then the parents have to take immediate action but shouldnt do anything that upsets the child/

In most of the cases children are abused by someone they know. The abuser takes chance by keeping the relation secret. so parents should make sure that they do give proper time to their child... so that they dont need to seek other adults' company.

... so many things.... ppl r coming up wid good ideas.. keep on going!!!:up: